A time for change?

It is not fair to ask someone to change for your own purposes. What if you were you asked to change? "Why," you may ask, "I'm fine the way I am". Well they feel the same way. Have you considered that if they change the traits that you don't like, it may alter the traits you do like? We're all guilty of wanting someone in our lives to change. As we get older it should become clear that the solution is for us to accept the person they are or to to limit our association them. If that person is willing to change what you would like, be careful. Change can make them not like the changes and become resentful, or give them the opportunity to request changes in you that you are not willing to make. All of those create negative situations for you. Does the individual really change? Or are you setting yourself up for deception?

Not all change has negative effects. Though it is an individual choice. Someone can genuinely want to change to become a better person and in that case it is can improve a relationship. But don't forget;it can still cause other characteristics to be altered.

People are who they are. Change is unfair if they are happy with themselves. Maybe an esteem check is necessary on your part. Question why you choose to associate with people you are not happy being around. Then work on yourself. This applies to family, friends, spouses,and anyone else.

Do not expect me to be who you want me to be; Expect me to be who I am happy being and you should be happy being you.
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